Fear and feeling better

By | October 1, 2014

Yesterday, I was scared. I didn’t quite realize just how scared I was – and I couldn’t quite label it. I was scared enough that I cried. Then I went out for a bike ride. Biking always makes seems to help clear my head and allows me to figure out what I’m actually thinking.

I realized on the bike ride that I had a fear of taxol chemo – almost a paralyzing fear – so bad that I was making plans to skip treatment. But I wasn’t sure if the fear was a rational fear or not. My fear is that the side effects that I’m experiencing will become permanent. With each additional treatment, I’m afraid that the damage will be irreversible. This is scaring me more than the fear of the cancer itself, and scaring me more than surgery (which isn’t scaring me anymore).

Today I’m feeling a little calmer. I’ve been able to label my fear. I sent an email to my oncologist, telling him that I am scared. This will likely be a surprise, as I have always (almost always anyways) been strong during my appointments. But I just need some form of re-assurance. I need to hear that I’m over-reacting, that one more treatment won’t be the ‘one’ that causes irreversible damage.

Somehow, today I’m not feeling nearly as panicked and scared as I was yesterday. I got a good night’s sleep. Actually, I’ve been sleeping better since the weekend. It has been cooler outside and we bought a new fan to cool the bedroom at night – which has made a huge difference. Unfortunately, the cooler weather isn’t expected to last – with forecast temps as high as 30 degrees C on Friday! So, back into summer temperatures. So, as some of the side effects get worse, others are fading as my body gets accustomed to the chemo. Today, I feel that I can manage one more treatment of taxol …

I also woke up this morning to fewer eye brows and definite thinning of the eye lashes. I probably have less than 10 hairs on each brow now. However, my head has a nice layer of peach fuzz on it! The transitions in hair growth are somewhat amusing …

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2 thoughts on “Fear and feeling better

  1. Kathy
    It’s natural to be scared. Fear of the unknown. How would you feel if you hadn’t been told the good news on Monday and you would have to carry on ? I’m not making lite of the situation, I’m just trying to help. You know you are strong and the docs confirmed that. Have faith that all will be ok. You have lots of people praying for you and sending their love. Youll get through this. Trust your doctors.
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  2. Rebecca

    Coding notes: This post has a high emotional impact. I feel the fear as I read the post, and I remember very much that timeframe and sending that email to my oncologist. Body image: mentions of hair growth but also talk of neuropathy. These two things also tag Side effects. I talk about biking as a Coping Mechanism. And the Fear is clearly an issue with mental health.

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